Last month I told you guys how I have planned on a ‘Beyond Beauty’ series where every month I would be posting a post that is everything but makeup and shopping. This is in an attempt to talk of real issues that haunt the regular human ranging from body image, haters to eating disorders to anything and everything that I feel needs to shared and spoken about. It is my little way of spreading the love. I hope this would help my fellow bloggers and readers interact and converse over these topics because we could just be cheering someone up! 😀 You can read the whole idea behind this series in detail HERE.
Haters. Who are they? And what do they want? And why? Like seriously why? Also most importantly how do they manage to invest so much time in you. #SeriousTimeManagementGoals 😉
These are questions we ask ourselves every time we have an encounter with a hater.
Who are haters?
I define them as anyone with too much hate and negativity in them who also feel it mandatory to be spiteful, resentful and pure rude to anyone and anything.
These people aren’t necessarily your enemies. I mean every dragon/witch/crazy animal and enemies usually know you personally and have something they deeply disagree about you. But mostly the ‘hater’ we come across don’t even know you yet take out the time to let you know you are being hated. It’s borderline hilarious if you mute out the venom they spit out.
We see people online hating on someone’s profile, post and videos. Then there are the others who act offline taking the effort to tell you how inadequate you are. They would comment in spiteful ways, make resentful statements. Like how many times have we seen people leaving long hateful comments on YouTube videos? Like seriously I don’t even have the energy to log in to my YouTube half the time and these people spend like a good few minutes writing an essay on YouTube. Like ain’t nobody got the time for that.
Everytime I see haters I wish they knew that I am sprinkling glitter at them inside my mind (You know there’s a company that lets you do that 😀 !). Like seriously get over all that negativity. You telling me you don’t like my hair isn’t gonna change anything nor am I planning on dressing up to please you next time girl. So get a life!
You’re first few encounters with haters always effect you mostly because you don’t understand why they behave the way they do. It has upset so many people I know and I have had my shares of being upset and confused.
So in this post I am gonna tell you the one thing you need to know about haters.
They hate because they have a problem with their life and that has nothing to do with you. They have an issue that they need to sit down and solve for themselves. You in no way can solve it for them so there’s no point in giving it a second thought. Let them deal with the hate and you go on doing whatever that you are doing.
I am not saying this because I read it on google but rather I have seen this. 99.9% of the time a hater is someone who isn’t quite happy with themself. They hate you because of themselves and that isn’t your fault.
They just want to dull your sparkle so don’t let them. Also you’re probably on the path of something right/good which is probably why they started with all that hate anyways so take that as a cue and make your journey of life fruitful.
Haters are never worth your time. Any kind of negativity isn’t worth your time. Like they say people hate when they can’t have you or be you and I couldn’t agree more. Ever thought how strong of an emotion hate is? I mean someone is taking the time out their busy schedule to put you down, make you feel low and hurt you. Some sadistic streak in them is clearly making them enjoy the whole process. They think you’re important and in a twisted way they are giving you a compliment, so take it and forget it.
The only way to deal with haters is by not dealing with them. Totally not worth your time darling!
On that note, always keep smiling and shining!!! 😉
**Disclaimer: I am no expert, I am just sharing my perspective so pretty please don’t hold it against me.
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